It’s been a while since I published a blog. Many thanks to all of you for your positive responses and your suggestions for marketing my books. Big changes. Heavy energy drains. Let me count some ways. Medical. Not serious but … Continue reading
They reinforce your vague ideas. Some name an ideal you’d like to see. Or share completely new information. Such is the brand new Hindol Sengupta’s, Being Hindu: Understanding A Peaceful Path in a Violent World. Talk about inclusiveness and allowing each … Continue reading
A friend, Barbara Frazier, just sent me a marvelous email showing a clear understanding of what I struggled to say in My Unveiled Face: A Memoir of A Free Woman. Barbara also sees my problems with getting women of different … Continue reading
when I think of all the helpful current books I don’t pick up because the title turns me off! Or something trivial like the cover. Fate struck straight to my heart. A friend sent me Goddesses Never Age saying something … Continue reading
Eating, Writing, and Happy. Warning: this is a commercial. joannlordahl.com This Blog is about money. Specifically money paid to an author as a result of the sales of their books. Since best-selling author’s make a lot of money, this is … Continue reading
drives me crazy. I have a goal, something I want to do. Or to get. And I can’t. My world is static, stuck in old patterns and I cannot, no matter what I do, I cannot move ahead. Here is my high road to depression.
Some coping methods I’ve learned. First: Is this a puzzle, an obstacle, or an entanglement? 365 Tao tells me, “A puzzle need only be analyzed carefully: It is like unraveling a ball of yarn and requires patience more than anything else. An obstacle must be overcome: We must use force and perseverance to either destroy or move away from what is blocking us. An entanglement mires us in a maze of limitations: This most dangerous of situations requires that we use all our resources to extricate ourselves as quickly as possible.”
365 Tao further advises to break down our problem into smaller pieces. And sometimes I need to break my goals into differing roads: health, life, financial, personal, and work for example.
Particular chosen habits are another thing that is of great help to me in keeping from getting stuck: I tie one thing to another: tie doing face and yoga exercises to a specific nightly TV program; tie my quick 20 minute daily walk to ‘just before lunch’.
And speaking of Habits – Meerabelle Dey, LadieswithOpinions.com (June 23, 2015) shares her list of “Ten 5-Minute Habits That Can Change Your Life”, some easy, some surprising. (And these may keep us from ever getting stuck!)
- Make Your Bed, 2. Floss Daily 3. Always Say “Thank You.” 4. Leave Early (for appointments) 5. Make Your Own Coffee (save money) 6. Tip Generously 7. Don’t Leave Dirty Dishes In The Sink 8. Leave Every Room Better Than When You Entered It 9. Compliment Others 10. Make Sure Your Transportation Is Always Ready.
I’m learning: Stuck is a state of mind. I don’t have to go there. And neither do you!
After clearing my yard of debris, there remains the problem of a limb fallen on a shed. And limbs and leaves and tons of Spanish moss on my roof. After speaking with Quaker friend Jean Larson I borrow a small … Continue reading
Finished Connie May Fowler’s Memoir this early morning. (As I’m writing my own Memoir I’m reading all I can find.) A Million Fragile Bones is an excellent first-hand account of the BP Gulf Oil Spill. Chilling. Connie May had done … Continue reading
Hurricane – Sept 18, 2017 Imagine. It’s a week after Hurricane Irma has passed leaving you without power – No electricity. No cooking, no air-conditioner, no phone charger, no computer or TV. But you do have water. And a very … Continue reading
More Than 1 in 8 Americans Are Now Alcoholics. What!!
This is the headline in Dr. Mercola’s daily email. (Dr. Mercola is an alternative practitioner whose opinions and work I pay attention to. Read this entire article at http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2017/08/31/alcoholism-epidemic.aspx?utm_source=dnl&utm_medium=email&utm_content=art2&utm_campaign=20170831Z1&et_cid=DM156513&et_rid=35015778
I’ve close-up views of alcoholism: father, husbands and I came perilously close myself. Let me share what saved me.
I was drinking a lot; everybody I knew did. My then boyfriend said, “You’re drinking too much. If you don’t quit I’m leaving.”
“Well,” I said after much back and forth arguing, “Of course I’m not an alcoholic. I can quit any time.”
“Prove it,” he said. “Stop for two months. I’ll bet you can’t.”
I’m stubborn. Sometimes a saving grace. I absolutely stopped drinking. But it was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. Right up there with stopping smoking. And taught me a valued lesson: for the casual drinker blending into the alcoholic there is a difference between “mental/social” addiction and “physical” addiction. (I’ve no doubt in my mind that without my boyfriend’s challenge I’d have become an alcoholic.)
With physical addiction your only choice is total abstinence. Get to AA as quick as you can. And stay there. If your loved one is an alcoholic get to Alanon. Pay heavy attention.
With the “mental/social” addiction (which is what I decided I had had) a total period of complete abstinence allows my body to reboot itself and clear the alcohol from my system. I can drink again but a lot more judiciously! And when I feel myself on that slippery slope of “too much” I stop. Also I’ve found that with meditation and other tension reducing behaviors like exercise and supplements tailored for my system, my desire to drink is greatly lessoned. (I drank to reduce stress and with lessoned stress I didn’t need the alcohol.)
A warning. With physical addition your only possible path to getting your life back is complete abstinence. AA has a lot of experience and they’re correct.