drives me crazy. I have a goal, something I want to do. Or to get. And I can’t. My world is static, stuck in old patterns and I cannot, no matter what I do, I cannot move ahead. Here is my high road to depression.
Some coping methods I’ve learned. First: Is this a puzzle, an obstacle, or an entanglement? 365 Tao tells me, “A puzzle need only be analyzed carefully: It is like unraveling a ball of yarn and requires patience more than anything else. An obstacle must be overcome: We must use force and perseverance to either destroy or move away from what is blocking us. An entanglement mires us in a maze of limitations: This most dangerous of situations requires that we use all our resources to extricate ourselves as quickly as possible.”
365 Tao further advises to break down our problem into smaller pieces. And sometimes I need to break my goals into differing roads: health, life, financial, personal, and work for example.
Particular chosen habits are another thing that is of great help to me in keeping from getting stuck: I tie one thing to another: tie doing face and yoga exercises to a specific nightly TV program; tie my quick 20 minute daily walk to ‘just before lunch’.
And speaking of Habits – Meerabelle Dey, LadieswithOpinions.com (June 23, 2015) shares her list of “Ten 5-Minute Habits That Can Change Your Life”, some easy, some surprising. (And these may keep us from ever getting stuck!)
- Make Your Bed, 2. Floss Daily 3. Always Say “Thank You.” 4. Leave Early (for appointments) 5. Make Your Own Coffee (save money) 6. Tip Generously 7. Don’t Leave Dirty Dishes In The Sink 8. Leave Every Room Better Than When You Entered It 9. Compliment Others 10. Make Sure Your Transportation Is Always Ready.
I’m learning: Stuck is a state of mind. I don’t have to go there. And neither do you!
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More Than 1 in 8 Americans Are Now Alcoholics. What!!
This is the headline in Dr. Mercola’s daily email. (Dr. Mercola is an alternative practitioner whose opinions and work I pay attention to. Read this entire article at http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2017/08/31/alcoholism-epidemic.aspx?utm_source=dnl&utm_medium=email&utm_content=art2&utm_campaign=20170831Z1&et_cid=DM156513&et_rid=35015778
I’ve close-up views of alcoholism: father, husbands and I came perilously close myself. Let me share what saved me.
I was drinking a lot; everybody I knew did. My then boyfriend said, “You’re drinking too much. If you don’t quit I’m leaving.”
“Well,” I said after much back and forth arguing, “Of course I’m not an alcoholic. I can quit any time.”
“Prove it,” he said. “Stop for two months. I’ll bet you can’t.”
I’m stubborn. Sometimes a saving grace. I absolutely stopped drinking. But it was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. Right up there with stopping smoking. And taught me a valued lesson: for the casual drinker blending into the alcoholic there is a difference between “mental/social” addiction and “physical” addiction. (I’ve no doubt in my mind that without my boyfriend’s challenge I’d have become an alcoholic.)
With physical addiction your only choice is total abstinence. Get to AA as quick as you can. And stay there. If your loved one is an alcoholic get to Alanon. Pay heavy attention.
With the “mental/social” addiction (which is what I decided I had had) a total period of complete abstinence allows my body to reboot itself and clear the alcohol from my system. I can drink again but a lot more judiciously! And when I feel myself on that slippery slope of “too much” I stop. Also I’ve found that with meditation and other tension reducing behaviors like exercise and supplements tailored for my system, my desire to drink is greatly lessoned. (I drank to reduce stress and with lessoned stress I didn’t need the alcohol.)
A warning. With physical addition your only possible path to getting your life back is complete abstinence. AA has a lot of experience and they’re correct.
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