Quite some time after I’d gained a PhD, “Scripts People Live” by Claude Steiner came across my path. This is “Games People Play” and roles of Child, Adult and Parent, including Pig parent. Pretty quickly I recognized that here was more real helpful information for me in living a life I wanted than about my whole college education put together! Most of my Games went out the window as time wasters. I learned names for spending my time and more focused ways of accomplishing my life, as I desired.
I’d read about ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) with some interest knowing my score was not terribly high, but high enough to give me pause. When I put ACE score into my Bing search engine I learned, “As your ACE score increases, so does the risk of disease, social and emotional problems. With an ACE score of 4 or more, things start getting serious.” And, “The ACE Score attributes one point for each category of exposure to child abuse and/or neglect. Add up the points for a Score of 0 to 10. The higher the score the greater the exposure and the greater the risk of negative consequences.”
When Carol Lewis gave a Forum on ACE to our Quaker group, I was quick to grab my second life-changing book: “The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity” by Nadine Burke Harris, M.D. Nadine Harris lives this story and takes us along with her. I learn ways to combat toxic stress and so can you (exercise being right up there!)
Once we understand our past, we can better deal with our future.